Would you have sex with a stranger in a public place at night? Would you stop to watch if you saw people having sex in the park? While dogging can be traced back as far as the 1800s in England it has recently taken new ground and popularity in Europe and The United States.
Let's take a dive into the practice of dogging and learn why people do it and the secret codes and rules!
Dogging is the practice of having sex outdoors in either public or semipublic places, often in cars and car parks. Dogging has become a popular activity for heterosexual couples and singles that enjoy the thrill of exhibitionism and the voyeuristic aspects of dogging. While many only seek to watch or be seen performing sexual acts some actively seek to partake in sexual activities.
The word dogging for this practice originated in England and can be found in English dictionaries from as far back as the mid-1800s! With over 3000 dogging spots dogging could be defended as part of English culture. While the true origin of the term is unknown there are a few popular theories:
The most common theory is that dogging comes from that "walking the dog" functions as a sort of social camouflage when cruising for sex in public places. If caught one could simply use walking the dog as an excuse to outside in rural areas or parks after nightfall.
Another possible origin for the term is the verb "Dogging" which means "to hunt or track". In this scenario, the word would be doing reference to hunting for sexual partners or a live show.
Maybe it originated from how quickly and casually dogs go from meeting and sniffing to humping! Whatever the true origin of the word may be they all seem fitting. After all, the excitement lies in the hunt for spontaneous, casual, and fleeting sexual encounters.
While all three share similar characteristics, having sex in public and semipublic places, "Cottaging" is a gay slang originating from the UK, referring to men having anonymous sex with other men in public toilets also commonly known as "cottages".
Cruising, on the other hand, is American gay slang for the activity which might take place in a public toilet, but also on beaches, parks, forests, or sex clubs.
Dogging is more commonly used by heterosexual people and couples looking for casual sex to exhibit themselves. It predominantly takes place in car parks but can, like cruising, take place in any public or semi-public place. The terms are often used interchangeably.
Casual and anonymous sex often gets a bad rep. Men who partake in the activity are often depicted as perverted dirty old men with low social skills. Even more damaging, women who enjoy sex are often slut-shamed and cast as promiscuous for exercising their sexual autonomy.
Casual sex challenges the status quo, often attracting negative judgment deeply rooted in outdated norms and values which are misogynistic, and heteronormative.
In reality, most people practicing dogging are what the so-called status quo would consider "respectful family people" with "respectful and meaningful jobs". The truth is that most who enjoy dogging experiences are normal people simply looking for a sexual thrill to combat the mundane!
People have varied reasons for practicing dogging. Some might enjoy the thrill of the taboo of having public sex and risk getting caught or seen. Others enjoy the erotic adrenaline-filled rush and energy of the hunt for anonymous sexual encounters.
Furthermore, there is evidence that Dogging seems to function as a way for heterosexual men to deconstruct traditional hetero-masculine sexual roles where sexual performance and competence function as indicators of masculinity. Exploratory studies of dogging culture show men prioritizing women's sexual pleasure and desires. These experiences often open up to the exploration of new alternative erotic experiences. Male/Male/Female three-ways and one-off same-sex encounters, simply for physical pleasure, void of sexual desire towards a specific person or gender are not uncommon. Dogging experiences often challenge the binary masculine model of homo/heterosexuality and dislocate sexual practices from sexual identities.
You can find people and couples dogging or cruising for sexual encounters in several secluded areas. Beaches, parks, car parks, and forest areas next to highways are common public dogging spots. Erotic cinemas and sex clubs are also popular spots for dogging.
So you're in the mood for dogging? Your safest bet is to head off to a secluded park and hope for the best or join a social media group to find the best hotspots. People often set up meetings with potential partners on websites and free sex chats!
Most people dogging are more than happy to just be able to see some action and tend to be very respectful to boundaries. It's unlikely you'll get a bad reaction for saying: "No, thank you". It is a known rule amongst people doing dogging that you don't join in or touch unless that has been communicated verbally or non-verbally.
Dogging often includes a series of non-verbal cues as signs of intent and consent.
When cottaging in a stall a person might slide their foot into the next stall to invite the other person. If interested the person in the next stall could respond to the invite by sliding their foot into the first person's stall.
Nonverbal cues outside the stalls are often similar to how an interaction might look when cruising for sex in a park.
When cruising in public spaces such as parks these nonverbal cues often consist of looks and slow progressions to make sure there is consent. A typical interaction could look something like this:
It is always best to verbally confirm consent. When you are close enough, ask "May I?" Before touching. It's always best to ask!
When dogging in cars the car's lights, doors and windows often serve as nonverbal cues for intent and consent.
While dogging and anonymous sex can be very exciting it might not be for everyone. But like many things in life, some things are acquired tastes and new experiences often surprise us. Dogging for the first time can be both exciting and scary at the same time.
The charged sexual energy of being around people dogging or even seeing doggers in full ecstasy is a real thrill and a fulfilling experience on its own! Feel free to go for a walk in a popular dogging spot, alone or with a partner, if only for the sexually invigorating and voyeuristic experience. Feeling comfortable and in the mood? Why not step closer to the car? There is no need to participate in anything you don't want to. That's the golden rule the dogging community lives by!
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